Things to do to make a relationship better

There are a few ways that you can make your relationship better if it is on the rocks, I am not an expert but it is just nice to know that you are not alone in a situation, just remember that every relationship has its ups and downs, no ones relationship is perfect even though it may seem so.

 First step is figuring out why your relationship is broken or not working. There is a reason behind this. It could be that you don't appreciate all the little things that your partner does or you may have gotten involved with someone else and there needs to be fixing. You may have hurt your partner in a way you may not know of or just not give them the respect that they need right now. You must figure out what it is that is not making the relationship work, like, key pointing the infection that way things can be resolved.

 You will never be able to change the past, have to accept what has happened whether good or bad, but what you can change is the future ahead. You must commit to making the relationship better, and sticking to it. If you love this person and care about them, the bad can be fixed it just takes time and understatement. Fixing the relationship must be a priority before anything else can get better, if it is not fixed than things will just go back to the same old ways. You have to put in the work to rebuild the love and affection, it does not come at an easy price. In other words you have to commit right now that you want to make the relationship better, not just one person but both.

 The hard thing is being able to forgive your partner and the person who has done wrong to forgive themselves, but we must forgive and move on. But since you have decided to make your relationship a priority. You have to focus on the healing part. By letting the past be the past and focusing on the now, and the present and future relationship. If you hold on to any old pain or grudges it wont help the relationship at all and it can just make it worse, you must start at a new.

 

 You have to change yourself. You also must accept the fact that you can not change your partner (they have to do this on their own) you can only change yourself. We have to concentrate on changing ourselves for the better and alleviate anything that caused the relationship to suffer or become broken. Here is an example of what you could do; if you stopped appreciating your girlfriend or wife, this is the best time to show her that you appreciate her, by giving her flowers, cards, candy and saying I love you. If you have stopped showing you boyfriend or husband respect, it is the time to do so, by being more respectful of him by what you may say or do.

 Lastly you have to communicate with one another. If there is no communication the relationship just wont work. You have to tell them that you love and care about them and that you really want this relationship to work out. Fixing a relationship isn't hard, it is just a matter of time, and being patient. Everyone heals at their own rate, but we also must reassure that we are committed.


Hopefully some of this helped out. I cant really say much, but like I said it is just always nice to know that you are not alone.

Good luck to anyone out there!!!

Recent events (Excuse any typos) And things you can possibly do after being cheated on or being the cheater

do to recent events i will be postponing any writing on The Crazzies, just because i need time to heal from what has happend to me in the most recent events of my life, and then i will continue to write but i must say now that the story of these three friends does not end well, but that is life, some friends are just not meant to stick around and others are. Some will be there through everything. well others will just take and take until there is nothing left for you to give. But I will be writing about how I feel and how i will decide to heal from being cheated on. I am sorry if my throughts change through out poems, i am just really trying to figure this out. Is it love? Is it not love? Can it be fixed? Can it not? Forgiveness must be done. And moving on must as well. As for now it is love, I do not want to loose this individual out of my life, but it can happen, because life has so many twists in it. Its just a matter of being on the same page, and giving one another a chance to just heal. Because it's not just me who is hurting but him as well for what he did to me. In these types of situations you must take action as soon as possible, you have to decide whether or not you would like to try and fix things or whether you just say your goodbyes and start a new life. Both choices are hard and they take time. If you do decide to stay with the person, make some changes.Analiyze the past events, and see what you can do differently as an individual but also as a couple. You have to rememeber though things are not going to be the same and they never will be but they can be better. So it's all up to you. You have the choice. but do not allow yourself to be stuck in a rut that may do more harm than good.

After You've Been Cheated On

What....
There is no way....
I just can not believe this just happend
What did I do wrong?
Why me?
I feel so disgusting.
I just can not believe this...
I feel betrayed.
I am not sure where to go from here
It's like I have lost my other half,
because I really have,
Keep telling myself that I am going to be okay
But just the thought keeps rerunning through my head,
You promised you never would,
You said you wouldn't do anything to harm me,
But why am I on the ground crying to death,
Why can't I eat, or sleep.
Why do I feel like it is all my fault.
Is this a test to see how far I can be pushed?
Is this a sign from up above?
To show me I can make it through anything?
Can things ever be better again?
I have loved you for so long,
I can not just let go,
But just can't believe you did this.....
What....
It can not be
I just feel so lost,
I just need to get up
I need to smile,
I can not let the negativity bring me down,
If it is meant to be between you and I it will
If it is not, it is such a shame because we could of been good,
Cause no relationship is perfect it takes time to learn and it takes time to heal,
All I can hope is for the best.
All I can do is wait,
But at the end
We are just left by ourselves.
Love is so hard,
Love takes time,
but LOVE is also fragile.
But LOVE can last.
Just have to push away all the bad and focus on the good.
Love is LOVE
even after such a thing.
thats why it takes time...

It's Just me Now (The Crazzies Part 1 Alice Poem 3)

I'm lost,
I don't want anyone's help,
I'm too proud
I'll get rid of all the people that care
That way I don't have to disappoint anyone
I just want to cry
Why did my dad have to abuse my mom?
Why did I have to see it
Why did I feel like I had to keep it close
Living each day as a zombie
Not letting anyone in
No I'm giving up
I say I want help
But do I?
Or am I just lost
Do I not want people to know the truth
Too ashamed
Just want to hide and forget
Nothing's helping
But maybe it's just me not letting it
Pushing and pushing so no one knows
So no one cares
Just leave me alone
Just let me go
I don't know!
I don't care

We are Young (The Crazzies Part 1 Poem 2)

We are sitting on a huge rock,
Eating some crazy big burritos,
Right next to the shore front.
Looking up at the moon,
How full it is.
As we sit a cold rush of wind hits us.
What are we to do on such a beautiful night?
Before we know it we are filling up the gas tank
And we are on the high way
We come upon the house of one of my friends,
Where we are there to make some trouble
They greet us with hugs,
And we greet them with the UV.
We are young
As we make our way the living room
The smell is already in the air.
Oh how I've missed the smell.
Inhale, exhale
All muscles become loose
And all the bad is forgotten.
To my right she smiles to me and to my left he smiles and to the far left there they all are,
All moving at a much slower pace,
Enjoying life.
And forgetting that there is bad.
I let myself get lost in all the noise.
And take a sip.
Where has the time gone its 3am
and everyone is out.
A fight between brothers has just rosen,
One yelling off the top of his lungs,
Well the other one just says good night.
And the silence,
All of a sudden I am the only one still here.
I just sit and watch the fan above go around in circles
Well some one outside sits and pukes.
And then headlights,
Like they are about to carsh into the house
And out come those who had disappeared for a few hours.
We are young
And so irrisponsible
But what if this is the only life we get?
As every one begins to mellow down its 5am
And then all through the house dead silence
Every one has gone to sleep
We are young,
and we have no clue whats ahead.

When One wants to... (The Crazzies Part 1 Amy Poem 1)

On a Wednesday night,
Where I just don't want to live anymore,
I text my friend,
"What is worth living for?
People are horrible and I don't feel like i am worth anything."
And she texts me back saying, "Don't do it."
But how am I not supposed to.
I just don't know how to handle all this stress.
I don't have an outlet for all these horrible things happening.
Before I know it she is at my house, and she askes me to get in her car.
I didn't really want to but I knew if I where to stay in my room,
the horrible thoughts would take over my mind and I wouldn't be able to came back to Earth.
So I sat in her car,
But I just couldn't say one word.
I just wanted to die.
I sat there well she tried to figure out what in the world was the matter with me.
But she just wouldn't understand.
All I could do was cry.
Crying was my solution.
As we drove around through downtown.
I watched all the cars pass by.
As my heart beat started to slow down,
and I just couldn't feel
I was allowing myself to go numb.
So that way no one could hurt me if I was already numb.
We approched Carl's Jr.
And I wondered why in the world we were here.
And out came my friend.
He sat in the back seat and tried to revive me
And by this I mean to make all the bad thoughts go out
Mid through the ride,
I began to talk.
And even though I didn't explain why I was having these thoughts
It brought me back from this dark place
The night was hard,
Trying to act like I was okay,
There was a lot of crying and no understanding
It got to the point where my other friend just couldn't handle seeing me in such pain
And she went to sleep in the bathroom
Because she as well has problems
But dont we all?
We woke up the next morning
We were all still alive.
And we made it through another night
Another night to see the next day

My Insecurities

There are millions of horrible thoughts running through my head
If I am doing the best I can do,
Am I too fat,
I am ugly,
If I do this will I get hurt?
Why is my heart racing so fast,
Things are getting blurry,
Anxiety kicking in.
Why can't I seem to concentrate,
I am not perfect,
I cant be this smart,
What if I don't succeed then what life will I live?
Am I not good enough,
Why can't I seem to understand what others are saying?
Are they speaking to me in a different tongue,
I am ugly,
Why does this society base everything on image,
Why am I not the same as everyone else,
Is there something wrong with me?
Why is my self esteem so low?
Why do people bully me,
Why do I allow them to,
I am ugly,
I am fat,
I am nothing,
I will never go far,
I am not white,
I have no brains,
I don't have any particular skill,
I am me.
So why can't this society accept it?

(Just ask yourself why do you as an individual care so much about how you appear on the outside? And where do you think this came from? From your family, your culture, the media that is around you, I am sure most of us have felt these insecurities, but remember none of us are perfect, we are all different, we are who we are, and no one can change that so expose your inner self!)